Online dating is more and more commonplace: Tinder, Adopt a guy, Meetic, specialized sites to meet people according to their height, weight, religion, profession. In short, there is everything on the internet. But precisely, there is everything. So you have to sort it out, stand out from the crowd and succeed in landing a meeting while remaining a gentleman. So here are 6 tips to follow if you want to be successful online.
1. Introduce yourself well
Yes, you have to present yourself well, but you have to do it really well (and be honest). Maybe you were a soccer star back in high school days, but it’s over! Now you have a bit of a belly. Nothing serious. But don’t take out the photos of yourself in high school, upload recent photos! Already, vanity does not have its place in meetings. Besides, you don’t want the first impression you leave to be: “He doesn’t look like his photos at all!”.
The consequence: you start a relationship with lies. Suddenly, that does not lay the right foundations. The same goes for your work, your studies. The truth must be said. Especially once a lie has come out, the person on the other side will always have doubts. It’s the same if you have weight, don’t worry, there is everything on the internet and you will find your rare pearl. By lying, you might miss out on opportunities with people who will appreciate you for who you really are.
2. Be reasonable with your expectations
Are you afraid of being the victim of a catfish? Someone who steals the identity of another person to try to seduce you? Don’t be too afraid. It’s quite rare in the end on the internet, but it does happen. This is why we must not lose the purpose of dating sites. You have to use them as a way to meet new people. Thus, a one-to-one meeting will be the perfect place to get to know the other.
You also have to be careful. As said in tip # 1, people tend to post photos that show off well. So you have to assume that most of the photos you will see are a bit dated, even retouched. We must therefore not expect too much from the Internet and really wait for a meeting in due form.
3. Take the lead
It’s very easy to talk to someone online, through a computer. It is already much less easy to talk to him face to face. Dating can lead to awkward situations where no one knows what to say. You may even find yourself facing someone who is really shy in public. This is why we must take the lead in the conversation. Otherwise, you just have to adjust to the awkward situation and hope that the other dates will go a little better. Remember that it takes at least 3 dates to really get to know someone and have it click.
4. Accept the rejection
Just because you’re dating a girl on the internet doesn’t mean you went on a date. It may be that you are compatible without more. You have to accept rejection. So if a girl says no to you, you don’t bother and move on. Simply. Because, unfortunately, a lot of men insist (it’s not a gentleman). Anyone can see text messages online from women who were having a normal conversation with a guy who suddenly went into a spin.
This advice also applies to those who do not respond. If you start a conversation and the girl doesn’t respond, don’t take it for yourself and move on. Maybe the girl deleted her app, maybe she doesn’t look at her messages often, or maybe she isn’t interested. That’s life, there are others. Remember that on the other side, it is a human being. So you have to be a minimum of civilized and gentlemanly and not behave in a totally different way. That’s why you have to meet the person as soon as possible, to bring a little human to all of this.
5. Stay at your appointment
When you meet the person, it is very important to be polite, even if the girl or the boy does not look like their profile picture or the image you used to think of them. It is important to stay at your appointment. To discuss, even if it will never be a love story, you will have met a person with a personality, a story, you will have learned something. At worst, if it goes really badly, you’ll have spent an hour with someone you’ll never see again. Either way, you will come out enriched. Of course, it is not a question of staying 5 hours, but an hour will do. Time flies and you could at least win a friend.
6. Try to guess what the other wants
A lot of people invest in dating sites with the goal of developing a romantic relationship, but there are some who only want 5 to 7. It’s easy to differentiate all the types of people you meet online.
If the person wants sex, they will suggest a meeting at their home or your home. If the person offers to “pose in front of Netflix”, that’s a code for sex. But if the person says “serious” or “no sex,” you may be suspicious, but chances are the girl is looking for a relationship.
There are also a lot of people on these sites looking for attention. These people talk to everyone a little bit just to make themselves feel better and boost their egos. These people will push you to follow them or subscribe to them on all the social networks that exist. Also, sorry to hear, but there will be no meeting because they are not really looking for that.
The best way to find out what someone is looking for on dating sites is to ask. Not directly, like that, but, in the middle of a conversation, if you’re ever not sure where it’s going, ask gracefully. If the person in front tells you that they are looking to meet new people and, if possible, build a love affair, this will be the best time to ask for a date.
